My Once College Bound Child Fell Off Track Now What?
Written by Mark Sampson,
in Section Academic Excellence
Young adults end up facing more pressure in their adolescence than many parents might even suspect. There are many social, culture, and peer pressures that can cause adolescents to make mistakes in their formative years. If you once had a child that was college bound and has seemingly fallen off-track, then there are some strategies that you can employ to reach your child. It’s important to remember that a misstep ultimately says nothing definitive about your child. There are plenty of very successful people who have made mistakes throughout their youth. The most important thing to do is help to correct and learn from the behavior. There are some actionable steps that will help your child get back on the college bound track:
1. Get to the root of the problem
There are often underlying issues when young adults get off track. Depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem can be crippling for college hopes. When someone is struggling with these types of issues, college is the least of their worries. The good news is that there are many clinically proven treatments for these conditions. Seeking out the help of a licensed and caring therapist can be the best thing that ever happened to your child’s college dreams. Once she or he gets back in touch with what their dreams are, they will be able to recover and get back on track.
2. It’s not too late to turn it around
If your child has not prepared him or herself for the rigors of a good college, that doesn’t mean that they can’t get in. There are plenty of programs that are orchestrated with local or community colleges that feed into better universities. If your child has bad grades, this can be a step to improving their studies and getting them ready to excel in a bigger university. Too often, students are under the impression that they have "missed out." This is not the case. There are plenty of institutions and government programs that seek to give people a second chance. If you need a helping hand, they are all around you.
3. Find out what your child wants
If your goals are not aligned with your child, this can make for a hostile environment. Things are much more productive when you are both on the same page. This might mean altering what you want your child to do with his or her life. But that doesn’t mean that you have to give up your vision completely. Explain why you feel that college is a good path, and why it could be particularly fulfilling for your child. The win-win scenario leaves you both with a better understanding of each other. Once your goals are better aligned, there is a good chance that you will both be more productive in fulfilling them. But sometimes this does entail some compromise.
Cedar Ridge Academy is a preparatory school for teens who wish to excel and prepare for their higher education. To find out more, call us at 866-471-6629.