Success- (a) The accomplishment of an aim or purpose. (b) the attainment of popularity or profit (c) a person or thing whom achieves or attains prosperity.
Change is integral for young adults to legitimately change. And what is change? What is growth? And how do we define these things?
These questions are difficult even for a fully-grown, fully established adult to answer. Why? Because the experience is different with everyone. Realistically, we would state that change only happens when people are motivated to do so. But what drives that motivation? And what brings it about? Deep down inside us lies the understanding of motivation. Motivation is the total combination of all desires, values and beliefs that we hold that drive us to commit action. Through these motivating factors (or the lack thereof) we completely influence our motivations, which influence our actions. You are far more likely to work, if that work leads towards your goal. Furthermore, you're far more likely to continue to work toward a goal when the goal is easier for you to accomplish, especially if the motivation comes from within yourself.
How do We Motivate Young Adults?
In order to truly gain the motivation to maintain a goal until fruition and eventual success, you have to structure your goals and evaluate four important steps:
1. Helping your young adult establish their own values, beliefs and desires.
2. Helping your young adult find and recognize their own strengths and weaknesses to establish a set of realistic goals.
3. Understanding the role of your young adult's personal circumstances.
4. True, long-term success involves merging all three.
Values, Beliefs, Desires
To understand what truly motivates them, you have to find help your young adult find out what's important to them personally. Does your young person desire to travel, work for social causes, attain status? If you hadn't ever thought about it, maybe now is the time to. Realistically, spending time to decide exactly what a person would like to do really motivates them to think about modifying, controlling, and changing their environment. If your young adult finds them self struggling with what they should be doing clashing with what they would rather be doing, instead of chastising, try considering helping your young adult rethink and internalize how realistic their relationship is with their motivations and dreams, and make changes to clarify the specificity of the relationship.
Strengths, Weaknesses, Goal Setting
True Long-Term Success requires acknowledging your strengths and weaknesses, while doing informal, personal assessments of your abilities. Reflect on your knowledge and where it's taken you. Evaluate every single topic you could think of, from reading to analyzing, even artistic, physical, oral communication skills, and much more that really begin to flesh out who you are as a person more than just a particular test, class, grade point or career.
Tell your young adult that the keys to success and change involve being:
5. under control.
Have your young adult write down their goals somewhere where they can see them, to remind them of what they're after.
In the End: Motivation + Goals + Circumstance = Success
Just Tell Them:
Be honest with yourself about what's important to you, and how these factors in your life relate to you. Be stronger to yourself than just giving in to what's easy. You'll never be happy if you do.
[Much more thorough approaches have been written than can be mentioned here. A good link to several different approaches can be found here (http://cnrit.tamu.edu/rlem/textbook/Chapter10.htm) and here (http://www.uiowa.edu/~uaactr/motivation.htm)]